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November 05 The First Generation of True Believers in Hope Last night, I called my father, long after his bedtime, when I was certain he was asleep for the express purpose of waking him from his sound, sweet slumber. Last night, I was the very first 'real' person to inform my father that in his lifetime he has been blessed to witness his people moving from the back of the bus, to the Oval Office. Last night, for the very first time in history, African-American Parents everywhere, of all ages and social strata were given one of the greatest gifts our Nation has ever coffered upon us, free of charge. Last night, for the very first time in the history of America, faith won out over a long held and deeply ingrained fear. Last night, a whole generation of Americans were instantly made into true believers in Hope. My children will number among the first generation of these believers. From now on, when I look at my children and tell them, "You can be anything you want when you grow up, even the President of the United States" they will have no reason to ever doubt the statement as an absolute truth. THANK YOU AMERICA! THANK YOU BARACK OBAMA! I never reveal whom I intend to or have voted for to anyone, but I will say this: I did not simply vote for a 'Fellow Black Man', and I will never be able to express the joy I feel at the fact that one has actually, finally won. Most importantly and impressively, this liberating and historic event occurred not because he was a 'Fellow Black Man', no not at all, this occurred because the nation -to a staggering majority- felt that President-elect Obama is the 'Best Man for the Job'. I am proud of how far we have come as a nation. We have finally made it to the promised land of ideology where a Man is judged by what he can do versus the color his skin. May my Gods and his bless the United States of America, all of Her inhabitants and President Obama's Term of Office with all the grace They can collectively muster. The Kitchen BitchA mother was working in the kitchen listening
to her 5-year-old son playing with his new electric train in the living room. She heard the train stop and her son saying, 'All of you sons of bitches who want off, get the hell off now...cause this is the last stop! And all of you sons of bitches who are getting on, get your asses on the train...cause we're going down the tracks.' The horrified mother went in and told her son, 'We don't use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and you are to stay there for TWO HOURS. When you come out, you may play with your train...but I want you to use nice language.' Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say... 'All passengers, please remember your things, thank you and hope your trip was a pleasant one. We hope you will ride with us again soon.' She heard her little darling continue...'For those of you just boarding, remember, there is no smoking in the train. We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today.' As the mother began to smile, the child added, 'For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay, please see the bitch in the kitchen..' October 28 The proceeding post Is dedicated with Resentment to someone that claims to be my friend, that I don't know from Adam. I took the time to look it up for him, figured I'd share it for posterity. October 27 Malignant Narcissism Malignant Narcissism From Wikipedia Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy." [1] The narcissist is described as turning inward for gratification
rather than depending on others and as being excessively preoccupied
with issues of personal adequacy, power and prestige.[2] Narcissistic personality disorder is closely linked to self-centeredness. ClassificationDSM-IV divides personality disorders into three clusters based on symptom similarities.[1] This clustering categorizes the Narcissistic personality disorder as a cluster B personality disorder, those personality disorders having in common an excessive sense of self importance. Also in that cluster are the Borderline personality disorder, the Histrionic personality disorder and the Antisocial personality disorder. The ICD-10 (International Classification of Mental and Behavioural Disorders, published by the World Health Organisation in Geneva 1992) regards narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as "a personality disorder that fits none of the specific rubrics". It relegates it to the category known as "Other specific personality disorders", which also includes the eccentric, "haltlose", immature, passive-aggressive, and psychoneurotic personality disorders. [edit] DSM CriteriaA pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:[1]
[edit] ICD-10 CriteriaWhile the ICD-10 does not specifically define the characteristics of this personality disorder, it is classified in the category "Other Specific Personality Disorders". ICD-10 states that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is "a personality disorder that fits none of the specific rubrics F60.0-F60.7". That is, this personality disorder does not meet the diagnostic criteria for any of the following:
[edit] EpidemiologyLifetime prevalence is estimated at 1% in the general population and 2% to 16% in clinical populations. [3] [edit] Hypothetical causesThe etiology of this disorder is unknown according to Groopman and Cooper. However, they list the following factors identified by various researchers as possible factors.[3]
Some narcissistic traits are common and a normal developmental phase. When these traits are compounded by a failure of the interpersonal environment and continue into adulthood they may intensify to the point where NPD is diagnosed.[citation needed] It has been suggested[who?] that NPD may be exacerbated by the onset of aging and the physical, mental, and occupational restrictions it imposes as can most personality traits.[4][dubious – discuss] Various Clinical Views Pathological narcissism occurs over a broad spectrum of severity. In its more extreme forms, it is narcissistic personality disorder. NPD is considered to result from a person's belief that he or she is flawed in a way that makes the person fundamentally unacceptable to others [5]. This belief is held below the person's conscious awareness; such a person would typically deny thinking such a thing, if questioned. In order to protect themselves against the intolerably painful rejection and isolation that (they imagine) would follow if others recognised their supposedly defective nature, such people make strong attempts to control others’ view of them and behaviour towards them. Pathological narcissism can develop from an impairment in the quality of the person's relationship with their primary caregivers, usually their parents, in that the parents were unable to form a healthy, empathic attachment to them.[citation needed] This results in the child conceiving of themselves as unimportant and unconnected to others. The child typically comes to believe that he or she has some defect of personality which makes them unvalued and unwanted [6]. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is isolating, disenfranchising, painful, and formidable for those diagnosed with it and often those who are in a relationship with them. Distinctions need to be made among those who have NPD because not each and every person with NPD is the same. Even with similar core issues, the way in which one's individual narcissism manifests itself in his or her relationships varies.[citation needed] To the extent that people are pathologically narcissistic, they can be controlling, blaming, self-absorbed, intolerant of others’ views, unaware of others' needs and of the effects of their behavior on others, and insistent that others see them as they wish to be seen [4]. They may also demand certain behavior from their children because they see the children as extensions of themselves, and need the children to represent them in the world in ways that meet the parents’ emotional needs [7]. (For example, a narcissistic father who was a lawyer demanded that his son, who had always been treated as the "favorite" in the family, enter the legal profession as well. When the son chose another career, the father rejected and disparaged him.) These traits will lead overly narcissistic parents to be very intrusive in some ways, and entirely neglectful in others. The children are punished if they do not respond adequately to the parents’ needs. This punishment may take a variety of forms, including physical abuse, angry outbursts, blame, attempts to instill guilt, emotional withdrawal, and criticism. Whatever form it takes, the purpose of the punishment is to enforce compliance with the parents' narcissistic needs[7]. People who are overly narcissistic commonly feel rejected, humiliated and threatened when criticised. To protect themselves from these dangers, they often react with disdain, rage, and/or defiance to any slight criticism, real or imagined [8]. To avoid such situations, some narcissistic people withdraw socially and may feign modesty or humility. Though individuals with NPD are often ambitious and capable, the inability to tolerate setbacks, disagreements or criticism, along with lack of empathy, make it difficult for such individuals to work cooperatively with others or to maintain long-term professional achievements [9]. With narcissistic personality disorder, the person's perceived fantastic grandiosity, often coupled with a hypomanic mood, is typically not commensurate with his or her real accomplishments. The exploitativeness, sense of entitlement, lack of empathy, disregard for others, and constant need for attention inherent in NPD adversely affect interpersonal relationships. Theories on Narcissistic personality disorder and shameIt has been suggested that Narcissistic personality disorder may be related to defenses against shame. [10] Gabbard suggested NPD could be broken down into two subtypes[11]. He saw the "oblivious" subtype as being grandiose, arrogant and thick skinned and the "hypervigilant" subtype as easily hurt, oversensitive and ashamed. He suggested that the oblivious subtype presents a large, powerful, grandiose self to be admired, envied and appreciated. This self is the antithesis of the weakened and internalised self that hides in a generic state of shame. This is how the internalized self fends off devaluation, while the hypervigilant subtype neutralises devaluation by seeing others as unjust abusers. This hypervigilent type does not fend off devaluation; he is obsessed with it. Jeffrey Young, who coined the term "Schema Therapy", a technique originally developed by Aaron T. Beck (1979), also links shame to NPD. He sees the so-called Defectiveness Schema as a core schema of NPD, next to the Emotional Deprivation and Entitlement Schemas. [12]. The Defectiveness Schema is compensated with three Schema Modes (coping strategies):
Note that an individual with this schema might not employ all three schema modes. [edit] Treatment and prognosisMost psychiatrists and psychologists regard NPD as a relatively stable condition when experienced as a primary disorder [7]. James F. Masterson outlines a prominent approach to healing NPD, while [6] discussing a continuum of severity and the kinds of therapy most effective in different cases. Typically, as narcissism is an ingrained personality trait, rather than a chemical imbalance, medication and therapy are not very effective in treating the disorder. Schema Therapy, a form of therapy developed by Jeffrey E. Young that integrates several therapeutic approaches (psychodynamic, cognitive, behavioral etc.), also offers an approach for the treatment of NPD. [13] It is unusual for people to seek therapy for NPD. Subconscious fears of exposure or inadequacy are often met with defensive disdain of therapeutic processes.[14][15] Pharmacotherapy is rarely used. In a review of the literature, one patient responded to Wellbutrin.[1] [edit] See also
[edit] Footnotes
[edit] ReferencesFull list in DSM-IV-TR)[1]
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October 26 It's Raining Onions, Hallelujah! My birthday recently passed. Yeah me, I am now officially on my way to being middle-aged and have out lived Jesus! Beyond being amazed that I have managed to avoid becoming the victim of a homicide for yet another year, woohoo, I am thrilled at the prospects, revelations and gifts that the stalwart age of 34 has brought to me. I am enthused to convey to you how the festivities were rung this go around. I am also pleased to announce that tradition was thwarted and that there was no cake. This year, the divorce of tradition was brought to me courtesy of one of the two women that fall under the dubious distinction of being my babies mama. My kids showered me with love laughter and affection. My babies mama/ best friend/ roomy showered me with homemade fudge of unimaginable orgasm inducing quality. Another friend gave me a very mellow inducing legal euphoric the size of Detroit, and last but not least my blessed, beloved Onion took 35 birthday licks with sopping grace and bought me a video game that I adore. October 13th has always been a lucky day for me. The Gods themselves saw fit to give me a gift unexpectedly. Quite sometime ago, I applied for a Job that I have always wanted. Having heard nothing about it for literally months prior to my birthday chalked it up to not being selected for the position. On my birthday, I got the call I had since decided would not come. Apparantly there really are people in the world willing to believe that I would make an excellently qualified teacher. Terrifying isn't it? Wish me luck, if all goes well I will be teaching at a local collage by January, and starting to work towards my MBA at a discounted tuition as well. Now, who says that the wicked aren't blessed? This does change a few things though, first being what some of you already knew, in January I was to start working on a Bachelors in Psychology. That will be put off until I have advanced the Business Degree considerably. At which point the Psychology Degree will be what it has always been, my pet project nursed on the side. This brings us to our second point, why it is raining onions. Not all of you understand my fascination with onions. Many of you know that I eat them at every meal. All of you know I named my girl after them. Hell I have even decided to make my next tattoo of one. Very few of you however, have been subjected to the explanation for my devotion to the glorious tuber. So, let me enlighten you all now. Once long ago in the Land of Far Far Away there was an Ogre traveling with a talking Jackass. At the beginning of the journey, the Ogre was explaining his personality to the Jackass and used my favorite vegetable as a metaphor. This diatribe in the childeren's movie 'Shrek', spoke to me very deeply -we shall procede and ignore the fact that I was high at the time-, it had echoed my own preponderance on the multi-layered goodness that goes well with everything. Shrek, the big giant green ogre, had explained comically precisely what I thought of people in general, and had down it in terms of food. Sometimes I really love Mike Myers. More to the point though, sometimes, people come through for us when we least expect it. Like onions, some of them may require further study and investigation. Sight-seen is not enough when we first lay eyes upon them, and the versatility and deliciousness of what lies inside may easily be missed if we dismiss the browned and paper thin, dirt ridden outer layer. Sometimes the best gifts come from the most unbidden, unexpected, and possibly even filthiest places with horrid gift wrap. Some of my best gifts have come from sources or in adornments that I did not understand at first. Some I have loved at first-sight. I am thankful for all of them. My favorite gift, more than any of the others I have recieved for my birthday by far, and I do love them all, is still coming 13 days later. My favorite gift has been from and includes all who gave me something of material and immaterial worth this year. My favorite gift is the love and respect of my family and friends. Happy Birthday to me. I thank the Gods for all of you each with your own layers to learn and love. You make my world rain onions. This is a very good age for me, I think I wear 34 well. Wynter, Onion, Hotness and Amanda, thank you for being the first and foremost adult reminders why it is such a blessing that I have not been the victim of a homicide for yet another year. |
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